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Misogyny, $800 first dates, simps, and high-value women: Social media has been busy cooking up and feeding us an addictive but toxic slurry of trends over the past few years. Here at The Toxic Cooking Show we're two friends dedicated to breaking down these trends, terms, and taunts into their simplest ingredients to understand where they came from and how they affect our lives. Join us each week as we ponder and discuss charged topics like personal responsibility and "not all men" before placing them on our magical Scale O' ToxicityAny comments or topics you want to hear about write to us at toxic@awesomelifeskills.com
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Situationships: We’re Not Dating But I’m Doing Your Dishes
Dating clarity shouldn’t feel like decoding hieroglyphs, but so many of us end up stuck in the gray zone where you act like a couple yet can’t say the word. We tackle the modern situationship head-on: what it actually means, why it’s everywhere, and how to stop investing months in “let’s see where it goes.” With real stories, clinical insight, and a few hard truths, we separate friends with benefits from the murky middle and show you how to move forward with confidence.
We start by defining a situationship as an almost-relationship with couple behaviors minus the label. Then we dig into the forces that keep people circling: fear of commitment, the lure of “better” options on dating apps, and the desire for intimacy without the responsibility of showing up consistently. We also surface the less-talked-about dynamics—expecting domestic care or financial support without reciprocity—and why vague language like “I don’t like labels” often signals a preference for benefits over accountability.
If you’re tired of the “what are we?” loop, we share practical scripts and checkpoints you can use today. Say what you want, set a short timeline, and watch for congruence between words and actions: introductions, dependable plans, support during stressful weeks. When answers stay muddy, treat ambiguity as an answer and choose yourself. On our toxicity scale, mutually agreed situationships are a green potato—safe with care—but dragging someone along for perks tips into toxic territory fast.
Ready to trade vibes for clarity? Hit play, learn the language of clean boundaries, and tell us your best “define the relationship” line. If this helped, follow the show, share it with a friend who’s stuck in limbo, and leave a review so more listeners can find their way to healthy commitment.
Hi, and welcome to the Toxic Cooking Show, where we break down toxic people into their simplest ingredients. I'm your host for this week, Lindsay McLean, and with me is my wonderful co-host, Christopher Patchett, LCSW. Today we are talking about the situation ship.
SPEAKER_02:Ooh.
SPEAKER_00:So as I always do for this podcast, when I start researching it, I go to my most trusted source. That is Urban Dictionary. You know, some people it's like, oh, you know, I'm gonna go to the library and I look up all this stuff, or I'm gonna hit up the New York Times. Nope, Urban Dictionary. First stop, whatever the topic is.
SPEAKER_01:There was my girlfriend said something or texted me something, and I knew she was using slang, and I didn't want to be that guy that was like, what does that mean? And so like I looked it up and it was like showing you like what the actual thing was, like in proper use. I was like, okay, I know she didn't mean that. So I looked up Urban Dictionary and I was like, okay, okay. Now I get what she's saying.
SPEAKER_00:It's it's useful, like for a lot of things. It's very, very useful. I love it. I I need to see if there's one in other languages. Just realize. Because I mean, I use it in English, and that's my native language. I need one in French. Anyway, I hopped on Urban Dictionary, and would you believe it? It failed me. First time. And that is because there are multiple definitions and they're not the same. Like, usually you read through Urban Dictionary and you're like, okay, these are just like, you know, because people put it on and then other people vote for it yes or no. You've got like more or less the same thing, just somebody thought this version was funnier than that version. And with situationship, it they kind of hovered around the same thing, but not quite. Also, another interesting thing was when I was looking it up, people said, Oh, situationship, that's Gen Z slang. The oldest definition of situationship on Urban Dictionary dates back to 2015. That is not Gen Z slang. I think that that's because I'm I'm a millennial. Gen Z's like six years after me. Gen Z was not dating like hardcore dating in 2015.
SPEAKER_01:I think the first time I ever heard it was 2020, and that was because of a client who was just happened to live with somebody, and then since they were during quarantine, they'd be so so the the this person is you know older than I am, so I mean that center generation X. So if they were using it, you know, I would say that definitely it's not Gen Z.
SPEAKER_00:No, no, I don't think it would have made the joke. Now you do see it appear a lot more in 2020. Like there are a lot of definitions around there, a lot of articles kind of since then, but we're still unclear as to what it is. Is it friends with benefits? Is it friends with benefits but messy? And the articles that I saw that people hear about like wild range, like everything from it's just another word for friends with benefits to it's a hookup with emotional benefits to women just want to have casual sex but can't call it that. So for the purposes of this episode, I feel like we need to define what it means to us before I continue, because otherwise it's gonna be really unclear. Because I th I thought it was cut and dry. I'm not gonna lie. Like in my mind, I know what a situationship is, and my friends know what it is, and we're all on the same page, but apparently we are not. So I would say, and I want your definition, is a situationship is it's an almost relationship, but something or someone is preventing it from becoming official. So it's like we're a relationship in everything but the name. We do all the relationship things, we you know act like we're in a relationship, but can I call you my boyfriend? No situationship. Where do you stand on this?
SPEAKER_01:I would say pretty much the same thing, is that it could be one or both people. So whether it is just like, I'm bored, you know, like I haven't dated in a while, and I kind of miss having a relationship, but there's nobody I'm interested in. Let's just have sex and and do the you know, boyfriend, girlfriend, or or whatever together, and they're like, okay.
SPEAKER_00:See, that to me is like friends with benefits.
SPEAKER_01:No, well, when I think of friends with benefits, I I just think of like more the idea of we're hanging out as strictly as friends, but then we're also having sex. I think of like situationship, like you know, like the the person I was saying about where they were just in quarantine and it was just like, hey, why don't you just stay here with me? And because you're not living with your friend most of the time.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. You know, unless you're roommates or whatever, like yeah, that that's a situationship where you're like, we're basically in a relationship, yeah, but you haven't taken that last like you know, three percent step to be like this is this is who we are, and that's what I'm saying.
SPEAKER_01:Like in that case, like both of them were like, you know, like I don't want a relationship, I don't want a relationship, but lonely, I'm lonely, yeah. We're quarantined, I have a bigger enough house for for us to stay in. Let's just hang out and do the chores and everything like that, and have a little bit of bang time too, too.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, that's true. I guess I also the last little bit for me is that there's typically with a situationship, there's like a tension to it. Because you're just like, what are we? That's why it's a situation, because it's just like, huh. Not always though. In most cases that I've seen that people have said, Oh, I'm in a situationship, there is a a noticeable amount of tension. So yeah, you and I are basically on the same page about what a situation ship is.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:Okay. Again, this is what I thought I was gonna find on Urban Dick Show. It's just like, yep, here it is, cut and dry. You see articles about people being like, oh, you know, I was in one and it was terrible. So I don't know where the internet went wrong in figuring out what a situation ship is.
SPEAKER_01:But for the purpose of this show, so I will say real quick, I mean, isn't that what a situation is? It depends on the situation. So for some people, the situation might be the quarantine thing. For some people, the situation is I really like this person and I want to pursue them, even though they're not ready. Maybe I might push them into that that you know relationship by doing all the boyfriend-girlfriend thing. This person's situation is that you know, whatever.
SPEAKER_00:That's actually a good point. Yeah. Okay, I agree with you on that. But I still maintain that it it is a almost relationship that isn't. It's not friends with benefits. Friends with benefits is something very clear.
SPEAKER_02:Right.
SPEAKER_00:A situationship is something more than that. Okay, so good. We're we're in agreement about that. All right, cool. So the reason why I felt like this needed to end up on the toxic cooking show is not just because, of course, we need to define the term, which we have helped the world tremendously today by doing so. But this is something that I'm seeing pop up so much. So, so much. I would say that the probably the majority of my female friends who have been dating in the last couple of years have run into this, have run into situationships where it's you know, you meet a guy, and I include myself in this. I've also been in this situation. You meet the guy, and you're like, Yeah, this is this is good, it seems to be going well, like everything's progressing, and then you get to that point where you're just like, hey, what are we? And he's like, I don't know, let's just see how it goes. Situationship right there. This seems to be happening so much. And I don't know if this is something that you have run into with women again. When I was trying to look this up, because I wanted to see if this was more of a women are running into this problem where men want this and women don't, or if it's you know both sides. And I I couldn't quite tell. It does seem to be a little more women feel like they are in a situation ship that they don't want to be in. Have you experienced this?
SPEAKER_01:Trying to think not recently. I I can recall maybe a couple times where it's like, you know, I that where I've brought that up, like, hey, where are we at? Yeah, let's just see.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. That's fair. And then I I get that maybe the first time you bring it up with somebody, especially if you bring it up like two weeks into the like into meeting the person, you're like, hey, what are we? And they're like, let's see. Let's see where it goes. That is a hundred percent a let's see where the vibes take us. This is uh you've been seeing the guy for months, and you're like, hey, what are we? and he's just like, Oh, I don't know. I don't I don't want to put a label on it. Situationship.
SPEAKER_01:It's weird because like I I remember one girl that I dated, it was it was really an awkward thing because like we were together for like three months, and I was like, Hey, so I really like you, I really care about you, I I wanted to know if you wanted to like start. As soon as I said the word dating, she got like really weird about it.
SPEAKER_02:Ma'am.
SPEAKER_01:She just changed the subject, just avoided the word dating, and then I was just like, Okay, I I I guess she's just not ready or whatever. And then, like a month later, we were going to like a dog show, and she's like, I know I'm not introducing you to anybody as my boyfriend, but I just need a little bit more time before I start doing that. I was like, but I didn't even know that I was your boyfriend. Like, what the fuck are we?
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. Aha, you were in a situation ship. I mean, that's a classic example, though, of what seems to be the reason behind this. That there's a there's this fear of commitment that's kind of going around. And commitment in like every single possible way. So sometimes it seems to be there's like fear of commitment when it comes to choosing a person. And I've seen a lot of people blame, like, oh, dating apps are the cause for this, because you know, with dating apps, you can just keep swiping, and there's more and more and more and more people. So, like, why settle down with this one? You know, the grass is always greener on the other side. Maybe I'm gonna find the perfect person there, so they don't want to commit just constantly new people, exciting stuff. So again, why limit myself to one person? And I think it maybe that does play a part, kind of like with ghosting, where if you feel like you have unlimited options out there, then maybe you know, when the person, when your partner comes to you and says, like, hey, what are we? you're gonna be like, eh. Or in this case, like this chick be like, I'm just not gonna like introduce you as this yet. Okay, so where do we stand after all these months? Like, why are you holding back on this? Is always my question. But to me, this that doesn't fully explain it. Because like we've talked about this on at least several episodes. Men definitely have a harder time like getting matches on dating apps, so it's not like you have 10 bajillion more options out there. You actually don't. So maybe if you've got one, you would you would think that you would want to stick with it. So I'm not I'm not sold on that idea. But there's also this idea of like fear of commitment emotionally, and this is something we have run into like on Instagram, like seeing stuff all the time. When you're dating somebody, I don't know if you know this. You're in a relationship, so you should know this. You you gotta be there for the other person, you have to spend time with them, meet their friends, like do stuff with them. You need to be there to listen to them. If you're going to be a good partner, I should add. You were there emotionally and physically for them. And I keep seeing this like personally through my friends and online, that it seems to be men want the benefits of the relationship, but they're not ready to do that work.
SPEAKER_01:I mean, I'm I'm totally there for the the person I'm with, as long as it's something I enjoy doing. I'm only kidding. I'm only kidding.
SPEAKER_00:I know you. It's because I know you that I know that that's not true. But it is true. I mean, relationships take work.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:That's that that's a given. Is this something that you have run into, though, with women? That there's also this, I I want all the benefits, you know. For instance, I want to I want to enjoy being in a relationship, quote unquote. So like we do stuff together, we go places, we sleep together, all of that, but I don't want to like put in the work on my end.
SPEAKER_01:Look who you're talking to.
SPEAKER_00:I know, I know you're but I have to ask, because maybe. Maybe.
SPEAKER_01:Yes, I I've experienced that like non-stop. Have I experienced that for for the purpose of this episode?
SPEAKER_00:You know, we we we ask the question. So yeah, this to me is the bigger issue is that people want all of the benefits, men and women want the benefits of the relationship. So either, you know, the other partner like paying for things for them, doing things for them, cooking for them, cleaning for them, covering expenses for them, but they don't want to actually put out on their end. And that's where I ran into is like, why is that suddenly an issue now? And I feel like this is it goes into like a far, far deeper topic than we have time for today. Like, this is definitely another couple of episodes. But there seems to be this like frustration on both ends, like both for men and both for women, that both parties feel like the other is using them. And so you don't want to, you don't want to get into that situation where you're doing all of the expected work on your end, but they're not doing it on their end. And so you hold back, and then they hold back, and then everyone's like, oh, this isn't working. I don't understand. Like, why aren't you cooking and cleaning for me? And I'm like, why aren't you providing for me? Like you say you want to, but then you don't, but then you expect me to, but then I don't. And then suddenly you're sitting there looking at each other and be like, we're basically in a relationship, but we can't call it that. And everyone's mad at each other.
SPEAKER_01:I mean, I could go into this all day.
SPEAKER_00:Please, please expand.
SPEAKER_01:No, I it's it's I I kind of I I agree with you. I think that both both sides again, you know, frustrated, and it's because both sides not only have experience in one form or another, but it's true. There are a lot of men that will use women for sex. There are a lot of women who use men for money, and that is literally all they want.
SPEAKER_00:I would say actually for men, it's not even so much about the sex, it's about the the taking care of me. It's the cooking and the cleaning, is what I have seen more of, actually.
SPEAKER_01:Hmm. Okay. So so yeah.
SPEAKER_00:But it's it's still that same, like, I expect you to do this thing for me.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:Like, I expect you to buy me all of these things. Yeah, it's it's that same.
SPEAKER_01:I'm sure that you've seen plenty of guys where you either you or your friends will do all the cooking and cleaning, everything like that, and then you see them slip off and they're screwing around with other people. And it's just like, what the what the fuck? Like, you know, you just use me, blah blah blah, and you know just as well I've been used so many times for like for money that and watching the other person slipping off and just being like, okay, I'm back up on my feet, go fuck yourself. Bye.
SPEAKER_00:So thankfully, we've never, like myself and like people who I I personally know, have never run into that like level where it's like you're doing all of it and then he's off like cheating on you. But what you do run into is that again, you're basically in a relationship. And when I'm in a relationship with somebody, and I think most people would, you like to do things like maybe you'll bake for them, maybe you'll cook, like you'll come over, or you know, if if you're coming over to my place, maybe I'll like cook dinner or something for you, for us, whatever. And you end up in that where like you're doing all these things because you're expecting that it's a relationship, because we're we're seeing each other multiple times a week, we're texting every day, like we're you know, back and forth at each other's places. And yet when it comes time to say, hey, what are we? suddenly it's a oh, I I don't know. I don't like to put labels on it, or I like to just let things go and see how it turns out, all of that. Suddenly it's just like, oh no, I'm I'm not willing to fully commit and be like, yes, we are dating, yes, you are my girlfriend, we are a couple, that is who we are. That's where you run into it where there's just like, but I'm dating you, but I can't say that. So it's it's a it's a weird place, as I'm sure you know.
SPEAKER_01:Yes, all too well.
SPEAKER_00:Just yes. And I'm curious, like, if is this also a problem for men that you run into the the dreaded what are we conversation? You know, with somebody somebody has to bring it up, right? Like it's I think that this should be a discussion. Like you never just assume it's like, oh well, we've slept together six times, therefore we're dating. Like that's that's not how it works. You need to sit down and be like, are we dating? Are we going the right way?
SPEAKER_01:And and this is where it becomes confusing, at least for me, a lot of times, where I will I will say exactly what what I'm looking for, what exactly I want, what exactly I'm calling this to leave out any confusion. And then I kind of get hit back with, yeah, and then given a different definition. I'm like, but do you blah blah blah? And they're like, yeah, different definition. And it's like, well, you you're you're saying one thing, but you're telling me another thing. And then when I try to clear the air, then you're agreeing to that, but you're saying something different, and it's like, what the fuck? And then eventually it's like, okay, I give up. I guess this is where we're at.
SPEAKER_00:So, like, with you run into this if you're saying, like, hey, you know, in my mind, we've been seeing each other for this amount of time, we've been doing this, we've been doing that. So, like, to me, we're in a relationship, therefore, boyfriend, girlfriend, and she hits you back with, yeah, we're dating, but I would never introduce you to anyone that I know. Like that type of thing?
SPEAKER_01:No, not even like the the but is like I I see that we're dating, I don't want to be with anybody else, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Yeah, you know, we're we're taking our time to get to know each other and seeing where things go. It's like, okay, well, so do you mean yeah, or I mean like do you you wanna do you not want to date and just kind of see where things go? Because I kind of see us being in a relationship, like, you know, like, yeah, yeah, we're we're we're in a relationship. We're getting we're we're getting to know where where each other's now, how each other are. Okay. So what do you mean? Do you mean that we're like seeing each other and and trying to get to know each other and building towards a relationship? Or are we in a relationship? Yeah, yeah, exactly. We're we're we're getting to know each other, we're trying to see how how we are with each other and everything like that. Okay, you know, and then it just becomes that that circular, like, you know, like conversation. And it's just like at some point I'm just like, okay, you know, fine, whatever the fuck we are.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. Okay, so that that's about what I have experienced. I'm glad to know that both sides are doing this. I mean, I'm not glad to know, but at least we're both on the same page as to how we're gonna treat the other. Because yeah, that's that's what I've run into, is that either myself or somebody else, you know, you sit down with the person and you're like, hey, so you know, we we've kind of passed that initial like get to know each other stage, and we've now moved into the you know, the other stuff, like, what would you define us as? And they're just like, yeah, but you know, we're we're seeing each other, we're we're vibing, we're cool, and like, so if I take you to dinner someplace, can I introduce you as my boyfriend? They're like, ah, you know, it's just I don't know if we're at that level yet. Okay. It's been months. When do we get to that level? So, where do you see us going from here with situationships? How do we get out of the vicious cycle of like, yeah, let's just go based off of vibes?
SPEAKER_01:Stop going off of vibes. That's fucking simple.
SPEAKER_00:Wow.
SPEAKER_01:If you say that this is what you're looking at, if this is what you want, and the other person kind of comes back at you with like the yeah, you know, blah, blah, blah, and and saying something differently. If if you're getting that to the point where it's just like your definitions are not meet matching up, you know, and you've tried saying that, like, hey, I think we're on two different pages. Maybe this is not like something that that you see as something worth it, and just being like, okay, that's it.
SPEAKER_00:I think that's fair. I think it a lot of it does come down to the the partner who would like it to be the relationship, if that is the case. Unlike the the case that you mentioned, where it's like, it's not a relationship, but we're both okay with where we are, that's fine. No notes. If if both people are on the same page, cool, carry on. But if you do have it where one partner's like, I kind of see us as this, and like I've already made it clear to you that I'm looking for a relationship, and you have the other person who's like, meh, you gotta leave. And I think I think it continues because people put up with it. And again, I've been there. I feel the pain of you're just like, you know what, it's fine, like, you know, maybe like a little more time, it'll be okay, we'll we'll figure this out. But nine times out of ten, you don't figure it out. And the other person just continues to sit there and continues to benefit from the relationship aspect of things without having to put in their effort. Because why would they? I mean, they're getting the best of both worlds.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:They don't have to admit that like they're in a relationship, so they could go do other things. Or even if it's not, you know, they're you know sleeping around with other people, if we're not in a relationship, you know, I don't have to invite you when I go out for uh, you know, drinks with friends, I don't have to introduce you to people, I don't have to see you, you know, multiple times a week, you know, whatever is kind of the level that you guys have decided as relationship. If we don't call it that, I don't have to do that. But if you think that it could turn into that, you're going to act like we're in one, and I get the benefits.
unknown:Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:On our scale O toxicity, where would you rate the situationship? Again, based off of the definition that we decided. Is this a green potato? Peel off the green skin and you'll be fine to eat it. Is this a death cat mushroom, a 50-50 chance of death or coma, even when cooked? Or is this a delicious but deadly last snack antifreeze?
SPEAKER_01:I would say that this is a pretty decent green potato. I think in 90% of situations, it is that whole, you know, like if you're actually caught in a situation ship, it is both people's knowledge that, hey, I'm lonely. I I just want, you know, some you know, like romantic feelings, or I just want, you know, somebody to sleep with. I just want to have that partner, but both people are on the same page. They're able to say, like, okay, you know, this is where we're at. I would say maybe a green potato with a little extra green, just for the fact that there are gonna be those situations where we're just how kind of how we were saying at the end there, where it's just kind of like, okay, you know what? I I I don't know what the fuck we're at. One person is seeing this as strictly a situationship, the other person's really trying to go for the romantic relationship, and the other person is just kind of dragging them along. I think at that point it's not so much a situationship as it is a just being a a dick. If the other person makes themselves clear that this is what they're looking for, and you're gonna start using that vague language because you just you just want to keep on getting that benefit, and if you were to tell them that, like, no, this is where I'm really at, now you're just being a dick. So I would say situationship itself is probably green potato where people what people do with it might be a little bit more toxic.
SPEAKER_00:I I'm pretty much on the same page that I think in the instance where it's a situationship that we're both that we're in agreement as to what it is, I don't see that as toxic at all.
SPEAKER_02:Right.
SPEAKER_00:Like as long as this has been spoken about and as long as everyone has agreed on the definition of what we are and what that allows us to do or to not do, fantastic. No notes, carry on with your life. Where I see a lot of the situationships though is the we both enter into this looking for a relationship. You know, we've met on a dating app, we've met in person. That implies that like we're looking for something, and maybe we've had that chat, and then one person is saying, I would like to make sure we're we're on agreement about what we are, and the other person's like, meh. That is it's like three green potatoes. I don't think as much as it annoys me, having like ended up in that and having seen friends get kind of caught in this, where I want to be like, no, it's fucking antifreeze, fuck those people. It's not at that level, but it it can be really frustrating, and you can end up wasting a lot of time and goodwill if you have somebody who's like, I want to be in a relationship, I want to date you, I want to be, you know, with you. And so I am acting the way I would like you to act towards me. Like I'm acting like we're in a relationship, because to me, we kind of are, and so I'm giving you that. You know, respect, I'm doing all the things that I would normally do. And then you have the other person who's kind of like, instead of just fully saying, look, I don't want a relationship. Here's where I am. You know, I'm I'm happy to do friends with benefits. I'm happy to do this, but I'm not looking for something more if they're continuing to kind of, you know, leave that, not fully stringing you along, but kind of that open of like, oh, let's just see where it goes. I don't want to put a label on anything. Because that's not saying no. It's not saying yes. And I think that that can over time, when you keep ending up in that, it completely sours you to being in a relationship because you're like, dang, every time I meet somebody, I get to know them. And then all they do is they use me for money, use me to mommy them, whatever, and I don't get the thing that I'm looking for. It's yeah it's like three green potatoes, I think.
SPEAKER_01:And I I think that you know, kind of one of the things that you were just saying about like, and this is where you kind of have to think about where is personal responsibility come in, because there have been times where we've both done it to each other, or we've both done it, and we've both done the whole thing with each other where it's like, hey, you know, he said blah blah blah, or you say to me, hey, she said blah blah blah. I don't think that, and then one of us will do the yeah, but this time it's different, and I'm special, only to find out like a couple months later when we're crying and we're hurt, and then you know, either you or I are like, you know, like hey, you know, if you really want to talk, I'm here for you, just to let you know I told you so, but also I'm also here for you.
SPEAKER_00:Uh-huh. And I agree, there is a lot to be said for if you end up in that situation. The correct thing to do is, you know, we sit down, we we have the chat of what are we, how do we define us, and one partner is just like, yeah, that should be your assigned to be like, I'm out, 100% out. I think the problem is oftentimes when you get to that point, it's that sunk fallacy cost, and you know, feelings are involved that you're looking at like, but I've you know just spent like three or four months with you, and I really like you, and you seem to really like me. So, like maybe if I just stick around, it will work out. Maybe, maybe, maybe. Chances are it won't.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:Sometimes though. Therefore, we must always hold out hope.
SPEAKER_01:I quit beating your friend.
SPEAKER_00:I mean, okay, okay, okay. In fairness. No, I quit. I one no, no, no, hold on, hold on. No two weeks one time. One time I had this discussion with somebody, and they were kind of like, and I gave him a little bit more time, and I came back to it, and I was like, I'm not interested in, you know, this not being a in that instance, I think because he won he was interested in relationships, I think he truly just needed more time to say, yes, okay, we're good. To me, it felt like we were like rapidly approaching situationship territory. I I think that is a a slightly like outside case where it's like, yeah, you were headed that way anyway. You just wanted more time. But yeah, if you see it, the other person's just like meh, and you come back to them a second time and they're like, I don't know. Like, just in I haven't introduced you as my boyfriend or anything, and I'm not going to. We're going to a dog show just casually as friends. Who goes to dog shows anyway?
SPEAKER_01:Oh my god, it was the the most boring thing I've ever done in my entire life.
SPEAKER_00:You know, shit. What did you think it was going to be?
SPEAKER_01:Well, uh, oh my god. Because she was there. I before we even got there, she's sitting there, she's like, you know, don't go out to the dogs and be like such a cute doggy and things like that. You just going in there and you just kind of like and so basically I sat there for eight hours. She got up and she did like the little like prance around the ring for five minutes.
SPEAKER_00:Oh, okay. So she was showing her dog. Okay. I thought you guys just like went for funsies. I missed that she was showing a dog.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, she was uh she she uh bred dogs.
SPEAKER_00:Okay, that makes slightly more sense, but also no ma'am.
SPEAKER_01:Oh my god, it was fucking boring. So fucking boring.
SPEAKER_00:Well, if you have ever been to a dog show that was not boring and can recommend one for patches, they're all let us know. Or if you have a different definition of what you think a situation ship should be, you can let us know. You can write to us at toxic at awesomelife skills.com. You can find us on Facebook, on Instagram, and on Blue Sky. And until next week, this has been the Toxic Cooking Show. Bye.
SPEAKER_01:Bye.
