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Misogyny, $800 first dates, simps, and high-value women: Social media has been busy cooking up and feeding us an addictive but toxic slurry of trends over the past few years. Here at The Toxic Cooking Show we're two friends dedicated to breaking down these trends, terms, and taunts into their simplest ingredients to understand where they came from and how they affect our lives. Join us each week as we ponder and discuss charged topics like personal responsibility and "not all men" before placing them on our magical Scale O' ToxicityAny comments or topics you want to hear about write to us at toxic@awesomelifeskills.com
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The Art of Friendzone and Honest Dating Conversations
What if being 'just friends' could lead to hilariously awkward situations and surprising insights about modern dating? Join me, Lindsay McClain, along with the insightful Christopher Patchet, LCSW, as we unravel the tangled web of the 'Friend Zone.' We share our own laugh-out-loud tales and explore how men and women often misunderstand the dynamics of platonic friendships, especially when romantic feelings aren't reciprocated.
We also dive into the emotional rollercoaster that comes with unrequited love and the crucial boundaries that help manage those feelings. Ever wondered why society expects women to spill the beans about their personal lives to friends? We tackle this and emphasize the importance of honest communication to prevent resentment from festering. As we reflect on how dating norms have shifted over the years, we help listeners navigate the tricky waters of evolving relationship expectations.
Finally, we dissect the art of articulating dating preferences with candor and respect. As online dating profiles become more specific, it's crucial to balance being honest about desires without crossing into discriminatory territory. Let's talk about how transparency can prevent toxicity, drawing parallels to the hazards of ignoring green potatoes—seemingly harmless but potentially problematic if left unaddressed. So buckle up for a candid, humorous ride through the intricacies of friendships and dating, served with a side of light-hearted banter.
Hi and welcome to the Toxic Cooking Show, where we break down toxic people to their simplest ingredients. I'm your host, christopher Patchett LCSW.
Speaker 2:And I'm Lindsay McLean.
Speaker 1:So I got to thinking that's dangerous.
Speaker 1:One of our first shows was the Friend Zone. Kind of going with the Friend Zone and then also going with one of the other ones I was talking about before, about, like what women want you know what they say they want versus what they actually like you know, like tend to go for, and I've come down to a conclusion. Okay, so one of the things that you had talked about about like with the friend zone is how men tend to get angry at being in the friend zone yes, yes, they do as a man who does fall into the friend zone quite often, there is one thing that I really do notice and this is kind of that that that anger point guy gets friendhmm.
Speaker 1:Guy gets friend-zoned and in return, okay, the guys who do not get angry and do end up being in the friend-zone. What ends up happening?
Speaker 2:Their friends.
Speaker 1:They become that guy friend where.
Speaker 2:Ah, yeah, I see which ones you mean. Yeah, there are some of them. Well, sometimes people can understand and they, they get it, and they're like, yes, I choose to be, I've been friend zoned, I get it, I'm truly your friend and we can go there. There is that certain subsection, though that's just like you, you sense they're waiting pretty obviously in the wing for something to happen and they're just kind of weirdly, they're not a good friend. They still want to fuck you, unfortunately, and they make it really clear that, like, we're friends, but if you ever want something more, we've been through this, yeah, we've been through this. Those are, are you talking about, like those ones who think that if they just are nice, that they can still get what they want?
Speaker 1:Not so much. I mean, you do have that, okay. So you do have the guys who are maybe if I do this and she'll, she'll see this and okay, yeah, you're gonna have those. But kind of adding those into the third category of the guys who are friend zoned fall into the friend zone. Set the friend zone cool with the friend zone. So, as the friend zone e I, I have grown up with being friends with a lot of women and in this time I do see I end up being that, that guy that they're able to confide in, they're able to talk to, and in all that, the guys that are completely fine with the friend zone and the guys who are hoping for that a little more, and I would say probably more. So the guys who are hoping for a little bit more, they see they get confined in, they get talked to, they hear about the girl's boyfriend and a lot of these times were, like you know, the obvious red flags. Yeah, so you and I, we've been friends for 14 years.
Speaker 2:Yes, we have. I don't like it when you say it like that, but yes.
Speaker 1:You know, in four more years I will be friends with you a half of your life, Damn.
Speaker 2:I was thinking more along the lines of in a year, our friendship could get its learner's permit and start learning how to drive. That's just what our friendship needs. Access to a car, yeah that's just what our friendship needs access to a car.
Speaker 1:Uh, yeah, you're still the only one who's ever driven my car. Yeah, outside of my dad nice, I feel cool so we've been friends for 14 years and in that 14 years like uh, one of the ongoing jokes that you and I kind of have is but I'm different because I am.
Speaker 2:I'm special in this instance.
Speaker 1:I know it screams red flag, but I promise you I'm different, it's okay this time is gonna be different, and we've both called each other out on this numerous amount of times where, like the other person's seen the giant red flag, I mean, you know, sometimes we both have got caught up in the fucking red banner.
Speaker 1:Yeah, both of us both of us we're. We roll around in that fucking banner. Sometimes we're seeing the, the red banners we're seeing, like, and the thing is is, is that okay? Sometimes they are such hardcore red banners that like it's just disgusting. One of the people that I told you about was or the best way of getting friend zoned was when the girl said to me you're like that gay best friend that every girl has, but you're not gay I just want you to know.
Speaker 2:I think about that comment on a regular basis ever since you told me that, like not every day, but it comes to my mind on a fairly regular basis that somebody would actually say those words out loud do you know what I or uh, one of the things that kind of ended up happening with her is we fell into that friend zone.
Speaker 1:I kind of accepted it. I was, I don't know, not not hoping for more, but still in that phase of like you know, like maybe. But so she would confide in me. She would tell me about her, like you know, like new boyfriend and shit like that, and then you see, like you know, like, so this is probably the most disgusting thing I've ever heard. She was telling me about this guy and how he's like really, really cool and how they were like hanging out one time, and every time that she would walk past him he would all of a sudden like slam the you know laptop shot and that's not sketchy at all no, not sketchy at all that's very normal behavior.
Speaker 2:I do that on the regular oh, same same same.
Speaker 1:So every time she would walk by he closes laptop and she finally got down to the point she's like okay, dude, if you're watching porn, I don't fucking care. Like you know, I'm not going to be that hardcore about it.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And so the behavior continued, and the thing was, he was doing this on her computer.
Speaker 2:Where was his computer?
Speaker 1:I mean, he would be hanging out over at her place. This is probably 2004, 2005, so if you wanted to bring your own laptop, then it was, you know, 20 pounds, you know okay, fair.
Speaker 2:I was not thinking about the time frame so.
Speaker 1:So she finally said, you know, like after he left she was like okay, I gotta see what the fuck is he like looking at.
Speaker 2:Turns out child pornography, yeah oh no yeah I thought you were gonna say something like furries and I was like I mean that would be a shock for for many people, I think.
Speaker 1:But like that's, that's allowed, that's legal yeah, and and, and you also got to figure if this would have ever you know, if she would have ever gotten caught like this is on her computer, so. So then that's probably why this guy is doing it.
Speaker 3:Oh yeah, of course.
Speaker 1:She tells me about this. I'm like, okay, obvious. Like you know, we're beyond red banners here.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Like we're bleeding the world fucking red at this point.
Speaker 2:You go to the police.
Speaker 1:So, yeah, it's illegal, it is. We are talking way beyond red flag here. But she's like you know, like, yeah, you know, like I know so many of his friends and he's introduced, he's cool and I'm like but child pornography right yeah so.
Speaker 1:So it's just like you know, like in that stage where, like you know, like again, I still had like a lot of feeling, well, still still wanted to bang her, uh, let's be honest, it's okay let's be real, okay, I, I still wanted to bang her, but you know, like now it's just like okay, as the guy who is being the friend D, you're now looking at yourself as like I'm being fucking conquered by child pornography guy. You know, and that's the thing is. Like you know, like we all like you know, like again, especially if you have like a desire to be with the person, you're looking at that other guy and just being like what the fuck?
Speaker 2:Like you know, you know like how are you seeing this dipshit?
Speaker 1:yeah, what are you seeing? This dipshit, that that you know, like, and so here's kind of where the things like really kind of come out. It's just like you know the things that, as the friend d, and again, like I said, there's been like a thing like mine I've always been the quote unquote nice guy, blah, blah, blah, and I ended up being friends with mostly women in my entire life and you hear the same thing, like you know, like I really want a nice guy. But as soon as I hear, oh my God, chris, you're such a nice guy. Friend zone, I want a guy that you know makes me feel safe. Oh God, chris, that you know makes me feel safe. Oh god, chris, you know, I'm really glad you're here, I feel safe with you. Friend zone, I you know. And, and this is kind of where you get your andrew tates, so you see tater tot who is banging you know okay, let's, let's be fair.
Speaker 2:Is he actually banging them or is he acting like he is?
Speaker 1:I would say a good portion. I'm sure he exaggerates quite a bit, but also you got to look at the women that he does have under his control.
Speaker 2:This is true? Yeah, I mean, I think it's not like you know, the man doesn't get any like ever and he's talking about all this.
Speaker 1:but I would like to remind people that he is probably exaggerating, and by probably, I mean absolutely so okay, so you, you have this guy who is at least getting a hell of a lot more than the nice guy who is feeling the shit of like, yeah, you got to treat women like property. He doesn't outright say it, but he pretty well outright says it.
Speaker 2:Doesn't he actually literally say that?
Speaker 3:Do you think women are the property of men?
Speaker 1:no, the point? Why have you said they are because I made a?
Speaker 3:religious point. I said that when a man marries a woman, the woman's father walks him down the aisle, walks her down the aisle and hands her away to the man. Traditionally. That's what it says in the bible. I'm a religious person. I believe in god. I live in the most so you do think that the woman becomes the men I think she takes his last name.
Speaker 3:I mean, let's watch the clip that you said about this so that we can get it in context. So I think my sister is her husband's property. Yes, when a bride is walking down the aisle to marry the groom, the father walks next to her and gives her away. True or false? Absolutely. But I've been married twice, as it turns out, and on both occasions I didn't believe that the woman was being handed to me as chattel, as property. I'm asked that question repeatedly and I'm asked in a loaded way. So would you rephrase what you said there? Now, that's an interesting point.
Speaker 2:I just want to take a moment, though, to acknowledge that he stumbles a lot with pronouns in this. There were multiple occasions in this interview right where he had to correct himself like my her or like his her, something like that what so?
Speaker 1:so he doesn't outright say but okay, so his whole thing is that the word property is defined differently. And this is actually my next show. That I'm going to be doing is words.
Speaker 2:How women are property One on one.
Speaker 1:I mean of course they're property.
Speaker 2:It's just bad.
Speaker 1:So you see, as the friend D, like you're seeing shit like this, you're seeing tater tot over here again. Like you know, like a, you know a lot of women treating them like shit and everything like that. And then, as far as you know, the friend d like trying to be there, trying to be a nice guy and all this, yeah, you know, that's where that anger kind of builds up from. Now, in no way should a guy ever go off saying fuck you and this and the other, but at the same time, this is kind of one of those things where it's just like if you are that angry, don't be your friend and I think that's it.
Speaker 2:Like I can understand the feeling of frustration of you want somebody. That person doesn't want you, but you're still kind of there in their life and so you're seeing them and you're like, but I want you the frustration that you know in this case mostly not mostly, but I think we did find that it was more often men who get friend zoned than women who get friend zoned this frustration, especially if it's happening to you on the regular. But, yeah, that's when you, as an adult, maybe just need to take yourself out of the situation and be like I can't handle this. This is really hard. I do also want to make the point that you kind of touched on it here and I've seen other men whine about this on the internet is that you're a dude.
Speaker 2:You get friend zoned and now you're getting information about the girl's life that you never got before and you're like, oh, what, like this is crazy, like she's only doing it to me. Cause, like, like, what Like this is crazy, like she's only doing it to me because, like, I'm the friend now, yeah, that's what women do with our friends. I don't think you understand the how natural it is for me to leave a 15 minute voice message for a friend talking about like relationship things, and you're just, you're going through. There's obviously some stuff that you know, you just you don't talk about but to you know the highs, the lows, and then he said this. Then he said that blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, like all of this information, like that is what women do with friends is we talk and so you're just now in your friend and so that's why you're getting that.
Speaker 1:I don't think it's so much the idea that it is. If this is how she sees me, you know, as just being the friend, yeah, I think more of the idea is that this guy who is trying so hard to appease you, you know, and listening to the things that all these women are telling him, like no, like I just want this, I just want this, I just want this, and kind of sitting back and getting rejected left and right and then kind of seeing the, the, the reality of, like these red flags that are like so fucking obvious, aka watching fucking child pornography. Yeah, I, I, I still, I never will understand how the fuck she I don't understand how you justify that.
Speaker 2:There's a lot that you can kind of justify and be like you know what it's. It's not my cup of tea, but you do, you.
Speaker 2:But that's one of those that's just like hard line yeah yeah, and I think with this it's something that I know, that I've been guilty of that.
Speaker 2:When you're talking about it, you know you say to the person like, oh, I want a guy who's nice, I want a guy who's interested in me, I want a guy who does this, this, this and this, and you can see them being like, but you leave off that key bit of information which is and that I'm attracted to, whatever that means, and we just we don't do a good job of like adding that on you. You kind of assume that it's there there, but I think that sometimes it does actually need to be said just to make it really clear that it's like I'm not saying you're not a nice guy, I'm not saying you're not this, you're not that. This is the part that's missing and this is the part that, like, I just I can't, it can't be made. But it's hard to do that because you don't want to. I've thought about this in the past like made that connection. It like. I think I need to point this out.
Speaker 1:Bingo.
Speaker 2:Do I win the prize? What's the prize?
Speaker 1:And and you get to deal with me for a long one, or for a long while longer.
Speaker 2:He's never going to be free of you anyway he's never gonna be free of you anyway, and you know what.
Speaker 1:so this is something that that I do think is definitely gonna be talked about at some point, because, like one of the things, oh my god, I cannot tell you how happy I am that women finally shut the fuck up about this so early day dating profiles.
Speaker 1:I'm talking like you know, like 2000, 2001, 2002. Like the early day dating profiles, women would say something along the lines of I want this, I want this, I want this, I don't care how you look, what's important to me is blah, blah, blah that's not true I'm just, yeah, yeah, you know, and that's the thing.
Speaker 1:Like you know, like it was I I'm thankful that women finally gotten down to the point where they stopped having to be that you know, like, oh, I just want a guy with a heart and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
Speaker 2:I used to, unfortunately, kind of see that I have seen women not anyone that I'm friends with but like I have seen women within social circles that I'm part of definitely say that. And then you look at the guys that they've dated and you're like, oh, do we, do we really? Not care what people look like because you gotta type and you keep going for it so okay, so you are still seeing the um.
Speaker 2:I don't care what they look like yeah, unfortunately that still kind of shows up. I I wouldn't say I see it often, but I have seen it on a slow but regular basis that somebody will go. I don't understand. I just want a good man. I want one who's loving, who's caring, and looks just really aren't that important to me. Of course there are some people who are out there and that is 100 true for them, but I think for a lot of these people no you're just like, yeah, there's some out there, but you know, sweetheart, I mean you take every box that I just I just listed off right here, but no, Next, I personally haven't heard that in a while.
Speaker 1:You know, like I said, I mean there for a while, especially in early dating. It was all over. Like you know, like every like, I'm talking fucking Yahoo personals.
Speaker 2:Okay, Damn you old.
Speaker 1:I'm sorry it needed to be said so yeah, I mean I, I saw that a lot in early dating profiles. I don't care what the guy looks like. I just want this, this and this. I actually have been seeing more and I actually do respect it that I want a guy that's fit perfect, teeth, this and the other, and it's like, okay, cool, at least you're being honest yeah, people, people get shamed for that, though unfortunately I was just gonna say you know, and that's that's the thing I was gonna kind of add was that girl over the summer who had that.
Speaker 1:I want a man in finance six, five blonde hair, blue eyes, six figures. There's something, no, I I don't think there was blonde hair, I think it was uh in finance, uh, six figures blue eyes I can.
Speaker 2:I can hear the cadence in my head, but I as soon as I saw like three videos of that, I was like, if I ever hear this again, I'm eating my phone out the window so yeah, you know people like that, they they get ashamed for it, but at the same time, you know what it's the truth I would rather somebody say that it can be very harsh, but I would rather if I was on bumble or something like that and I'm going through and I'm scrolling and I see a dude who I'm like, oh you look really cool and like everything seems to match, you know interest and all of that.
Speaker 2:And then I saw he's like I only date like super skinny. Then it's like well, then this is not going to work because I'm not super skinny and I will never be super skinny and this is just going to cause problems. And maybe I think you're a little superficial for saying that I can get it within reason, people having certain preferences. And if this is such a big deal for you, be it shallow or not, I would rather you just go ahead and put it out there and then I can swipe left and we both go about our business and nobody's feelings get hurt let me ask you like why is it shallow for on his end I think there's a weird line in there that I'm not always sure where it is, where I think that people can have preferences, but sometimes people's preferences obviously cross into like racism type thing.
Speaker 2:I like to date people who are fit. I like to date, you know, somebody who's curvy. I like to date somebody who really, really works out at the gym, you know, because it's something that's important to me and so like I want a super fit man or woman. I think that, as long as it's kind of a reasonable ask and again doesn't cross that boundary into something like racism, that's okay. Okay, I think that's what I mean, where if you know that you like a certain look, okay, go for it, but let's not be racist.
Speaker 1:I mean, I definitely think that and this is what I was kind of going to is that if a guy says, you know, like I really like super skinny women, I think we're kind of at that point where it's just like okay, you know, fine, cool.
Speaker 2:Exactly. I think that in and of itself, like you know, super skinny if you're talking about body type, as long as you're not saying fat women are gross, you know you don't include that. You just say here's what I'm looking for. Okay, that is your preference, that's what you like. If that's me, great. If it's not me, I move along. I would rather you be upfront about it.
Speaker 1:So this is off topic I'm, but actually you know what. So here's the thing that that that I I'm kind of curious about is is it better to hold those thoughts in, like I think fat people are gross, or I would never date a black girl, or you know something along those lines?
Speaker 2:Again, it's that very fine line, isn't it Between? Is this a preference? I'm just kind of like, you know, I'd rather the person that I date look and act like this Is this something that the person can change? Is this something that they can control? When you're looking at dating profiles, I think it's better to focus on the neutral to positive aspect of what you're looking for, instead of saying no fat girls, no short men. I think just go ahead and kind of focus on what you are looking for and again, especially if you're doing online dating, you can filter Like if there's something that's really important. We've talked about this before.
Speaker 2:I think, again with friend zone, that I have a friend who is quite tall and I know that she, when she is, was like on dating apps and such, she was filtering by height because she kept running into dudes who were not actually six two, unlike some people here, and then it's just awkward, more so for them, and they would make the whole situation awkward for her, and so that was something that she was like. Then i's just awkward, more so for them and they would make the whole situation awkward for her, and so that was something that she was like. Then I'm just gonna filter by this and so you don't even ever have to write in the profile. No short, middle, loud, behind the scenes, cut someone out. Same way as when you're dating online or even just in public. Like you meet somebody and you're kind of looking at them, you're like I don't know, you're not cute. Then that's the person you don't give your number to.
Speaker 1:That's not the person you swipe right on I mean there there is definitely a difference between no short people allowed, which I need to have a sign hanging out my door just make sure you hang it high enough so that we can't reach it. It's not hard but there's there's definitely a difference between no short people allowed, and I prefer a guy who is 5, 10 and and over.
Speaker 2:Yeah, again, it's all about, I think, kind of the phrasing. It's all about what you choose to openly put out there in writing or say to somebody, versus what you kind of keep in the back of your head when you're looking at potential partners. Because we all are well aware that short people are disgusting partners, because you know, we all are well aware that short people are disgusting, I mean I was gonna say the same thing about tall people you know hey, don't hate, you know.
Speaker 1:I mean, we got extra, uh, extra height, that you all, that, that you all want.
Speaker 2:But it's okay, you're gonna be the first to get struck by lightning. So actually don't, don't tall people live shorter lives. That's it.
Speaker 1:He's dead folks there is a height where it does become, uh, that massively big people end up living their lives.
Speaker 2:Yeah, there is something I'm just I'm not sure kind of what's that tipping point of once you get above X height that your lifespan starts to go down? There is one, though.
Speaker 1:Hopefully not six two. I hope it is but you know what, if I die, I hope to die around you, so that way I collapse on your short ass fair if I'm going out, I'm taking you with me it's the only way to do it so okay.
Speaker 1:So we, we pretty much are kind of going into, like you know, and we've pretty much been saying about it is what do we or how, where do we go from here? Uh, so I think we pretty much answer that you know, like of being able to you know again, really specify what it is that you want I think.
Speaker 2:So I think that there's again. I mean we can kind of laugh at looking for a man and finance girl, because the the way she did that was most of the comedy. Not necessarily like you want this type of man, but like the fact you can make a video talking like this about what you want like I will mock you for that.
Speaker 2:But if you have preferences, if you have stuff like you can't really change what you are and aren't attracted to with, you know there's there's always some leeway, but in general, you know there's certain things you're attracted to, there's certain things you're attracted to, there's certain things you're not. And I think that as long as it doesn't cross again those certain boundaries into this is like really nasty, you know racism, or just incredibly hurtful and unhelpful, and into the negative, I would rather you be upfront with me and just be like you're not my type. I would rather you be up front with me and just be like you're not my type. It's not what I want.
Speaker 2:Like you're a really nice person, everything else is super great, but it's just like because of this I am not interested. I would rather get that hurt and feel a little bit sad about it than always kind of have this like oh, but maybe if I'm just like a little bit nicer, like maybe if I'm just a little bit more available from a little bit more this like that's actually. You know that then you're going to want to be with me and everything is going to be hunky-dory and happy. I think just just be up front.
Speaker 1:Yeah, within reason yeah, if you don't find the other person attractive again, you don't have to be a dick about it.
Speaker 2:No, and have to be a dick about it, no, and don't be a dick about it. In fact, like actively avoid being a dick about it, but you can still be honest and not a dick, I agree.
Speaker 1:And this is something that I think that us as a society is going to have to kind of get over, because I mean, we kind of have this in our heads that, oh, we're supposed to act this way, oh we're. You know we're supposed to always be kind and what is being kind, and you know we're not supposed to body shame and things like that, and it's just like. You know, you can still say you're not attractive without being like look, I'm not attracted to fat fucks like you.
Speaker 2:Exactly. Maybe we don't need to. Then we could just say I'm not attracted to fats like you, ha ha. But I mean, we're already. Let's be honest, we're already doing this, especially with online dating. You're just doing it a lot faster. You do it on the streets as well, like if you were just at a bar looking at people. You know this the person who's really hot and you know this person who you're like. But online dating, I have seen people like men and women. Everyone does it. That's what you're doing.
Speaker 2:You're looking at the photos Like they're. All of the apps are designed to show you that photo, like it was the first thing you see, like front and center on your screen, and so you have that very kind of instant reaction and that's what they want you to do is to just based off of this photo, this first photo. Yes, I want to date this person. No, I've spoken about this person before, the the ex of mine, who was on apps for about two years before he and I matched and I was the only person that he matched with. He's Asian. You can't tell me that. That's not part of it, because this man had multiple good photos on his profile. He had all of his information filled out, so you couldn't be like he only had one shit photo and no information. That's why people were swiping left. It's like no, no, they saw an asian dude. Like there's unfortunately not a lot that you can do to kind of be like it was this no it's a lot of that.
Speaker 2:So people are already doing that. Like just that's that kind of like weird into racism, like we don't need to add a list of you know no asian guys allowed, type thing. But yeah, if you've got those preferences, you're already using them every time you swipe.
Speaker 1:Yeah, just be honest so on our scale of toxicity, revisiting the friend zone uh, where would you put this on the toxic scale? Would you call this a green potato, where it is a very small chance of getting sick? Is it a death cap mushroom, where you have a 50 50 shot of living or dying? Or is it a antifreeze? Where is a delightful last meal?
Speaker 2:hmm, I am tempted to put this as two green potatoes, because I think that it is a problem. It can lead to problems, like many of these things, which is kind of left unchecked. If people refuse to be honest with themselves, with others, about what they're looking for, then they're going to be left upset because they're not getting it and people around them are going to be upset because it's like well, I feel like I meet all of the things that you're looking for, but something's missing. You know the things that you're looking for, but something's missing. But I don't think it's the type of thing that, on a regular basis, gets really, really nasty.
Speaker 2:Maybe because I'm not like in the dating scene at the moment so I'm not having to like go through it. But yeah, I feel like death cap mushroom is a little bit high for it. That just if 50, 50 chance of death just feels like a bit much when we're talking about just be honest especially because I think people are maybe starting to move towards that Just being like I don't want this, I want that, I want a man with a beard and a six pack Like you know what. Just say it, just fucking say it Like go for it.
Speaker 1:I and a six pack like you know what. Just say it. Just fucking say it. Like go for it. I agree with you. I will have to say it Green potato times two.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:For all the same reasons, I think that, yeah, be fucking honest. You put somebody in the friend zone. Don't just be like, oh well, you know it's, I just like you as a friend.
Speaker 2:No dude, just you know it's I just like you as a friend. No dude, just you know, like no, I just think you ugly as sin, like I'm sorry, don't say that kids, be honest, but be nice yeah, you can be nice and you can be honest.
Speaker 1:So, yeah, yeah, you know, put somebody in the front zone, but actually be honest with them, like. So that that's all we're really asking for is honesty as as people, both men and women, just be fucking honest but nice but nice, but nice. So, with that being said, come check us out on our social media. So, with that being said, come check us out on our social media.
Speaker 2:We have Facebook.
Speaker 1:Twitter X Threads Trying to do the same thing. Whatever, fuck Elon.
Speaker 3:True that.
Speaker 1:TikTok and all the other good things, and if you have any comments, if you have any questions that are honest but nice. Don't forget that are honest but nice. Don't forget that are honest but nice. Please feel free to email us at toxic at awesomelifeskillscom, and until next week. This has been Christopher Patchett LCSW.
Speaker 2:And Lindsay McLean.
Speaker 1:Along with our EP, little Miss Molly, so we'll see you next week. Bye, bye.
Speaker 3:Bye.
